Spring weather allows for hitting the links

golf-hole-1-1237569It’s Kansas. One can never be sure of what kind of weather is waiting on the other side of the front door, but since it is March, it is Spring in my book.

This means a lot to me.

First, I hate being cooped up in the house all the time. Sure, I enjoy surfing the Internet and watching Netflix as much, if not more, than the next guy, but I like to be in control of that decision. I don’t like it when the weather dictates my laziness. I want to make the call to spend an entire day in my recliner.

Second, I think I can actually hear my motorcycle whimpering to get out on the road. Sure, I could take it out as long as there isn’t snow or ice on the road, but neither of us likes the cold weather. Call us wimps if you will, but the sunshine makes for a much better ride.

Third, baseball season is starting. Being able to enjoy the outdoors while sitting and watching nine innings of strategy and excitement is a perfect way to spend the day. I can’t wait to be out on The Hill watching the Wichita State Shockers.

Fourth, March Madness is upon us. I look forward to watching the Shocker men make a deep run.

However, the most important reason spring is important to me is golf.

I know I’ve written about it before, but I love going golfing. It is the only time I can truly disconnect and be at one with my thoughts and nature.

Of all the activities I take part in, golf is the most relaxing. Golf allows me to focus on one thing — getting the ball into the hole in as few swings as possible. It doesn’t require any extra thought.

By focusing on that one goal, it frees my mind. It allows me to work out issues and has inspired my creative writing on more than one occasion.

It’s also fun that my wife has gotten into the game. It’s nice to have a hobby we can enjoy together, and, if we forego the golf cart, we can even get in some exercise.

Even if you aren’t a fan of golf, or anything else I’ve discussed thus far, the point is I encourage you to get outside when it’s nice and experience the outdoors.

You could do something as simple as go for a walk, or, if you don’t want to be active, sit in a lawn chair.

Of course, if you or your children are of the more adventurous type, you could try rodeo.

No, I’m not crazy. There are high school students taking part in this sport all across the state.

Guest reporter Kylah Comley, a senior basketball phenom and editor of her high school’s newsmagazine, wrote the feature for this month, and she highlighted students at her high school who have rodeo in their blood.

It’s great read, and you get to hear from four student-athletes who don’t fit into the typical mold of high school sports.

Some of them even compete just down the road in Kingman, so if you were looking for a way to get out and enjoy some nice weather, you could go watch some of these incredible young people take part in something most of us would never consider doing.

Yes, Spring is in air. It is a time for renewal and looking forward to what is to come. Gone are the doldrums of winter. With the blooming of the flowers, a sense of excitement and longing for time spent with those you love doing something special to all of you blooms as well.

When I’m not golfing, I’ll probably be grilling, so if you can’t find me on the links, look for me cooking some of them.

Small acts make the soundtrack of love

PianoRoseFebruary is a month of love. Valentine’s Day is smack in the middle of this month. Some argue this particular holiday is nothing but a marketing ploy by chocolate producers, rose growers and card manufacturers.

These people have little use for the day, and I would generally agree. However, it isn’t because I am at odds with the impetus behind the holiday. Rather, I feel a person shouldn’t use a single day each year as a crutch to actually show his love for those near and dear to him. One should show his love for others every day in ways that don’t inherently involved flowers or chocolates.

That being said, I am actually looking forward to Valentine’s Day this year. It marks a milestone for me. It will be the first Valentine’s Day I have experienced as a married man having married my wife and Wichita Family essayist Kendall Vogts this past July.

But even that isn’t the true reason I am looking forward to this time of the year. It was the day before Valentine’s Day last year when I got engaged.

I did so on purpose. I thought it would be too cliche to do it on Valentine’s Day, and I did it when she and I were alone. To me, that made it more special. In my mind, it showed I wasn’t asking to prove anything to anyone other than her, and I was proving my love for her by making a commitment to be with her for the rest of our lives.

The fun part for me was that particular day, Feb. 13, 2015, was a Friday.

Yes. I got engaged on Friday the 13th. That’s hilarious to me due to the juxtaposition of the bad connotations of Friday the 13th and the expression of love behind a marriage proposal.

Besides, it was the perfect day to do it. It truly fit our relationship. We both are quirky.

Besides both of us being a little different, we also mesh perfectly in numerous other areas of life — a love for reading, suspense and crime dramas (seriously, you need to watch “How To Get Away With Murder” on ABC . . . we love it; it’s on Netflix if you are interested in checking it out), golf, writing, music and so much more.

It is the love for music which comes to mind today. Neither of us play an instrument, though I could still play taps on my trumpet if called upon to do so. Rather, we both love listening to music, and the genre is inconsequential. We just love music.

This has been particularly important in our married life as on the weekends I am a mobile disc jockey. This is a business I have ran since I graduated high school, and Kendall embraced it. My brother helps me, and Kendall is now an official part of the business. She travels to nearly all the gigs with us, and when my brother can’t be there, she steps up and helps me do it all, including carrying the equipment.

Then, once the show begins, she is out on the floor dancing and helping me ensure everyone at the event is having a good time, even if that means making a fool of ourselves in order to make a shy person feel OK about getting up to move and groove to the music.

Everytime she takes part in our djing business, I see it as an act of love. I so appreciate her willingness to join in. It speaks volumes to me.

I feel that is part of any relationship. The small acts of love and understanding are so important. It isn’t about constantly showering a person with gifts. It’s about doing little things to show you care.

Every time we dj, read, watch our favorite television show or simply listen to music together while driving around, I feel closer to her.

I don’t need gifts from her. I just need her time and understanding.

So this Valentine’s Day, don’t stress about ordering a dozen roses, buying the biggest box of chocolates or picking out the perfect card.

Give the gift of your time and understanding. Make your significant other supper, read your favorite book together or cuddle on the couch while watching a great show on Netflix.

Or maybe just go for a drive together and listen to your favorite music.